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Worried about committing to a coloured gemstone engagement ring?

If you’re worried about committing to a coloured gemstone engagement ring, fear not. We’ll guide you through some of the concerns that often come up and give you some points to consider so you can be confident making your choice. Coloured gemstone engagement rings have long been considered an alternative to the traditional diamond ring. The question remains, is one right for you?


Addressing the Concerns about Gemstone Engagement Rings

It’s natural for people to feel hesitant about straying from the norm, especially when it comes to engagement rings. Some common concerns that come up include worries about durability, symbolism, and changes in personal preference. Addressing these concerns head-on can help ease the decision-making process.

Durability and Longevity

A main consideration when selecting the stone that will be in your engagement ring is durability. Ideally this stone will be hard enough to last a lifetime with minimal wear and tear visible on its surface. Many people opted for a diamond in their engagement ring because they are very durable and very hard. While diamonds are known for their hardness, coloured gemstones such as sapphires and rubies are also durable enough to withstand daily wear. These gems are classified using the Mohs scale, which measures their hardness. Diamonds rank at the top with a score of 10, but sapphires and rubies are not far behind with a rank of 9. The lower a gemstone is on the Mohs scale, the softer it is, so you’ll want to select a stone with at least a rank of 8 or above.

Symbolism and Tradition

As noted above, it was common for people to select a diamond for their engagement ring due to their durability. Over time, a perceived symbolism of a diamond ring evolved and they began to be associated with timeless love and commitment. This association can be so strong that someone might not consider a ring an “engagement ring” unless it is a diamond. And so, the diamond engagement ring became traditional. But, the truth is, it could be argued that coloured gemstone engagement rings are equally as traditional. Since the custom of giving engagement rings came about coloured gemstones have been in the mix, particularly blue sapphire and ruby. Still, some people consider coloured gemstone engagement rings non-traditional. The question for yourself is, how do closely do you identify with this perceived tradition? Is it important to you, or not?

Personal Preference and Aesthetics

Finally, we’ve found that some also worry about potential regret. We’ve had clients who worry that their decision is being influenced by trends and are unsure if they will still like their ring in 10 years. Others worry that the colour of the stone in their engagement ring won’t match their wardrobe. For the first worry, no one will be able to anticipate how they will feel about their ring in the future. But, if you are having that thought, it might be a sign that you are not confident in how you feel which means you might not be ready to make your decision. For the second worry about matching clothing, we advise not giving that thought too much energy. There are no rules about being “matchy-matchy” anymore.


Benefits of Coloured Gemstone Engagement Rings

Now that we’ve addressed the worries, let’s explore all of the benefits that coloured gemstone engagement rings offer when compared to traditional diamond rings.

Dazzling Array of Colours

One of the most beautiful and exciting aspects of coloured gemstone engagement rings is the incredible variety of hues available. Especially now that different colours of sapphire have become so popular. Traditionally people associate sapphire with the colour blue. But did you know that sapphires are available in a whole rainbow of colours? There are even sapphires that are more than one colour which are referred to as bi-colour or parti sapphires.

multi coloured sapphire options for gemstone engagement rings
Different Colours of Sapphire from Sorbet Sapphire

Uniqueness and Rarity

There is a common held belief that diamonds are rare. But the truth is that there are many coloured gemstones that are much rarer than diamonds. Some rare coloured gemstones such as high quality colour-change alexandrite or high quality ruby are much more expensive than a similarly sized diamond.

Uniqueness is also a consideration. The difference between grades of diamonds can almost be imperceptible to the common person. The difference between a E and an F coloured diamond can only be discerned by a professional gemmologist. But, with coloured gemstones, every single one is different. This uniqueness can be incorporating into the story of your relationship and the story of your engagement ring.

Value and Cost-Effectiveness

Although very large or very rare coloured gemstones can be even more expensive than diamonds, coloured gemstones often offer exceptional value for their price. Generally, coloured gemstone engagement rings tend to be more affordable than their diamond counterparts. This allows you to allocate your budget to a larger, finer stone without compromising on quality.

Gemstone Engagement Rings, is one Right for You?

In a world where diamonds are the standard, choosing a coloured gemstone engagement ring instantly sets your proposal and your engagement ring apart. We find that many of our clients fall in love with, not only their ring design, but also their gemstone. Especially when that gemstone is a coloured stone.

Ready to commit to colour?

Please get in touch with us or submit a quote request to get started. If you would like to schedule a meeting we have a wide selection of coloured gemstone that we can show you. Or, if you have a more unique request, we can order gemstones in from our local suppliers so you can see options in person. For inspiration you can also check out the website of one of our local suppliers, Sorbet Sapphire.

Hope to see you soon!

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Suzanne Co-Owner
Suzanne is one of the founders of Posy Fine Jewellery. She received a bachelor’s degree in Fine Art and Anthropology from the University of Toronto before training as a goldsmith at George Brown College.


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